We’ve been taught that every feeling has a reason and that it’s serious. That we must understand why we feel what we feel. Who caused it. What experience triggered it. And how to fix it. This can send us on long, mind-made journeys that only lead to more mental loops. Trying to solve emotional states with thoughts instead of presence.

Psychology often leads us into our minds and our past, guiding us to dig for answers. If we can just remember what happened to us as children, or what someone once did, maybe the pain will disappear.
But here’s the thing: even after years of therapy, even after naming and understanding the stories, we still often feel the same pain. We want to get rid of it. To take it out and throw it away.
But the truth is much simpler than that.

What You Feel Is Not a Problem

Pain isn’t the problem. Rejection is.
When we say, “I don’t want to feel this anymore,” we’re pushing the pain away. And rejection gives pain more power. Suppressed pain doesn’t vanish, it sinks deeper.
The first step? Accept that it’s there.

Pain has a reason for showing up. It’s here to show us something. Sometimes we understand the lesson, sometimes not. Let the “why” reveal itself in time. Your only job is not to fight the feeling. Just acknowledge: “It’s here. And that’s okay.”

All Is Energy

What we call pain is just energy.
Joy, excitement, grief, sadness, anger, they’re all the same energy expressing itself through different filters. Some of these expressions feel heavy (dense), and some feel uplifting (light).

Dense emotions like anger or sorrow feel sticky and tend to linger. And while we let joy move freely through us, we often resist the darker ones. That’s when they get stuck, in our body, in our mind, in our field.

“Joy, excitement, grief, sadness, anger, they’re all the same energy expressing itself through different filters”

Moving the Energy

The key to moving energy is taking responsibility.
If you’re feeling dense, angry, sad, jealous, it’s yours to tend to. Not someone else’s fault. Not a story to hold onto.

Taking responsibility means saying: “This is mine. And I’m making time to be with it.”
Learn to sit with the emotion, to feel it, we are used to distract our selves, with the phone or Netflix but be still, sit, fell how it feels in the body, feel the uncomfort, it wont kill you, look at it, in which part of the body doest it stay? sit with it, get to know it.

Once you give it space and acknowledgement. Here are some ways to help the energy move:

1. Shake

Put on music. Let your body move wildly, without thinking. Shake your arms, legs, head. Let it all go. Shaking helps the nervous system release stuck tension.

2. Hit the Pillow

A classic for a reason. Grab a pillow and let out your anger. Scream. Hit. Let the energy move through your body in a safe, conscious way. Make sur eyou dont heart yourself or anyone around you. It might seem wied, I know, but it is highly efective

3. Aspecting

Sit in front of a pillow. Imagine the pillow is your emotion, your pain, sadness, anger. Start a conversation. Ask: “Why are you here? What do you want me to know? what do you have to say?”

Then switch places. Sit in front of the first pillow and speak as the emotion. Let it talk freely. Don’t think, just express. Keep switching back and forth until something shifts.
Once your done sit in stillness and let sink in whatever your expereince was.

4. Journal

Take it to paper. Let it all out with no filters. Don’t worry about making sense, just write what comes. The paper can take it all.

Your Inner Alchemy

There’s nothing wrong with feeling what you feel. The more we resist it, the more it persists.
The moment we accept it, we make space for it to begins to move. Your emotions are not a burden. They’re a gateway, a gateway to your healing and better life.

In today’s world, many people carry stuck emotions and unconsciously react from them. They act out of their wounds, believing these reactions are the truth. But they’re not the reality, just a personal one, shaped by old beliefs. Beliefs that can and will shift over time.

This plays out everywhere, in our communities, relationships, and families. It’s how we connect, and often, how we get hurt. But once we learn to feel what’s happening inside and tend to it, it becomes a practice. I’m not saying it’s easy. Dealing with pain rarely is. But we came here to experience this, to feel the shadow side of polarity and transmute it.

“We are leaders of change. And that change starts within.”

Each wound we tend to creates space, for the next one to arise, and the next. Each wound we heal creates space. For what, you ask? Whatever you choose. I choose love. How about you?

With love
Maor and the gentl team

Most times, when we talk about love, we think of romantic love. I’m not going to define love because, honestly, words can’t really capture it. It’s something we feel, something we express. I also don’t claim to fully understand it, but when I do feel it, I recognize its beauty.

Since we’re not always fully open, carrying layers of protection, conditioning, and ideas – this love energy only partially shines through us. It’s felt in glimpses, sometimes fully in our bodies, sometimes just as a whisper.

But love isn’t just one thing. It takes many forms, and when we start noticing them, we realize how surrounded by love we actually are.

Here are some ways love manifests:

⭐ Brotherhood love – The deep trust and support between men who see and hold space for each other.
⭐ Parenthood love – Selfless love of giving without asking. (In essence)
⭐ Self-love – The foundation of all love – the way we care for ourselves, speak to ourselves, and show up for our own needs.
⭐ Animal love – The pure bond between us and the creatures who love without the layers of conditioning.
⭐ Friendship love – The kind of love that feels like togetherness and trust.
⭐ Universal love – The energy that connects all beings, beyond names, roles, and relationships.
⭐ Nature love – The silent, deep connection we feel in the presence of mountains, oceans, trees.

“When we pay attention to all these expressions of love, we feel it expands  in our lives”

There are more, always more. And when we pay attention to all these expressions of love, we feel it expands even more. The more we notice, the more we feel it. And the more we feel it, well – what else do we really wish for?

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The truth is, the world we see around us is just a reflection of what’s alive in us. If I carry sadness and resentment, that’s what I’ll see everywhere. If I invite love, kindness, and good intentions, that’s what I’ll find, even in life’s challenges, even in the darkest corners.

It’s all happening inside of us. And ultimately, the world we live in is our choice. Do we choose fear and scarcity, or love and trust?

So, how do we shift? How do we change our reality? I believe it starts with self-love. The more I love and care for myself, the more my way of being shifts – the more my energy, my presence, my experience of life transforms. Change happens from the inside out.

I’ve talked (and will keep talking) about how to bring more self-love into daily life, but here’s a simple reminder:

⭐ Giving myself time to rest without guilt.
⭐ Speaking to myself with kindness, even when I mess up.
⭐ Making space for joy, for slowness, for pleasure, for sadness, anger – whatever comes with no judgment.
⭐ Moving my body in ways that feel nourishing, not punishing.
⭐ Wearing clothes that feel good on my skin
⭐ Eating in a way that feels nourishing (without always needing to be ‘perfectly’ healthy)

“The more I love and care for myself, the more my way of being shifts – the more my energy, my presence, my experience of life transforms”

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So, for this Valentine’s Day 2025, from my heart and from gentl’s, may we direct our love to ourselves first. Because the more I love myself, the more I have to share with others—and the more love I’ll notice, both around me and within me.

Wishing you a Valentine’s filled with tons and loads of self-love.

With love

Maor and the gentl team

We are often taught to value productivity over presence and strength over vulnerability. In this context, the concept of self-love is  completely  nonexistent. What is self-love? How do I know I love myself, and why is it important? Self-love is an ongoing process of connecting and accepting myself, my inner world, and my decision-making. I express self-love by giving attention to my inner world and treating myself with the care I deserve. Understanding that I am the creator of my reality, self-love becomes core value. It’s not just an abstract idea, it’s a tangible practice.

In these words I address men and their journey toward self-love but of course it can be  beneficial  for anyone seeking that wy of self relating.

Here are practical steps to begin this journey:

1. Set Boundaries

Many of us are conditioned to prioritize others’ needs over our own, often at our own expense. Setting boundaries is essential to protect our time, energy, and well-being. Boundaries start by asking ourselves: Is this good for me? Do I truly accept this? Sometimes, it means saying NO – whether at work, to friends and family, and specially to a partner. Saying no isn’t always easy, but it’s necessary for self-respect.

Another type of Boundaries is towrds yourself – creating space and time for your own personal growth and rest. Take the time to do what supports you best, whether it’s a hobby, self-care, or reflection.

Boundaries aren’t barriers, they’re a way of valuing yourself and teaching others to do the same.

Boundaries aren’t barriers – they’re a way of valuing yourself.

2. Practice Gratitude

Gratitude is a powerful practice, yet many of us haven’t been taught its value. Gratitude acknowledges what we already have, creating an openness to receiving more. Start each day by listing one or three or ten things you’re grateful for. These could be as simple as a delicious cup of coffee or as profound as meaningful connections with loved ones.

For example, my gratitude practice might look like this:
“Thank you for my healthy body, my deepening inner path, my home that holds me and keep me warm and the abundance of nature around me.”

Over time, this practice shifts your focus toward the positives, a sense of contentment and attracting more good into your life. Try it.

“Gratitude shifts your focus to the abundance already present in your life.”

3. Take Care of Yourself

Self-care is about nourishing your physical, emotional, and mental needs. It can include:

⭐ Eating homemade food that you enjoy (for me occasionally enjoying a pizza is nourishment for the soul!).
⭐ Exercising in ways that feel good to you. Dancing or walking also counts of course!.
⭐ Meditating to rest the mind, reduce stress and deepen your connection with yourself.
⭐ Taking breaks when you feel overwhelmed instead of pushing through. Being soft with yourself.

By taking care of myself, I send a clear message: I matter!

4. How Do you Talk to Yourself?

Pay attention to how you talk to yourself. Often, we’re harsher on ourselves than we’d ever be to others. When negative self-talk arises, counter it with kindness. Replace, “I’m not good enough,” with, “I’m doing my best, and that’s enough.” Avoid low language or negative words toward yourself. (A phrase I like is, “Bad moments pass, but words spoken stay forever.”

You deserve respect, starting with you. Treat yourself with the same words of compassion and kindness you’d show to someone you deeply love.

“You deserve respect, starting with the way you speak to yourself.”

5. You are not alone

Surround yourself with people who uplift and encourage you. Regularly ask: Does this person contribute to my well-being and growth? If not, it might be time to step back and create space for healthier connections.

Being vulnerable with loved ones – sharing both struggles and victories – can strengthen bonds and remind you that you’re not alone. Asking for help is a powerful practice, though not always easy. I’ll go deeper into this topic another time.

6. What Brings You Joy?

Act on activities that excite and recharge you. Ask yourself: What do I feel like doing right now? Whether it’s walking in nature, painting, cooking, surfing, whatever it may be,  following your passions will energize you and often provide clarity for your life’s challenges. You can look at it the the energizing fuel to deal overcome challenges.

7. Let Go

We all carry baggage from our past, but we can choose how we relate to it. Letting go of guilt, resentment, or shame creates space for growth. Acknowledge that events happened for you to learn from them.

By releasing negative emotions attached to those events, you allow them to serve their true purpose as you transform them into stepping stones for your evolution.

Loving Yourself

As you practice self-love, its energy reflects in your reality. Relationships become healthier, more aligned with your true self, and deeply fulfilling. Boundaries bring respect both from yourself and those around you. Self-love allows you to show up authentically in all areas of your life.

The journey to self-love is an ongoing way of life, not a destination. In each moment, I choose again to love myself. It requires patience, practice, and deep faith, but the rewards are profound.

Start small, stay consistent, and watch the transformation unfold before your eyes. Little by little, it becomes a life you truly love.You are worth it.

Gifting is more than giving an item, it’s a way to share love, care, and presence. When you put intention and attention when gifting, you’re offering something meaningful, something that reflects the connection you share with the person receiving it. This season, we invite you to slow down and consider gifts that go beyond the material, gifts that emphasize connection and inspire self-love.

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Let’s be honest: we often feel like we don’t have enough time in the day. It’s easy to get caught up in the rush and the pressure of finding the perfect gift. But true gifting isn’t about the cost or extravagance, it’s about the intention behind it. Actually, the gift itself doesn’t really matter. Nobody will say, “I don’t like this gift,” right? But what does matter is your intention.

Adding a little extra intentional detail to your gift, chosen with attention, can make your gift more emotionally impactful. This is a chance to show up for those we care about, to express our appreciation and affection with sincerity and heart. This way we nurture the connections in our lives and bring us closer together. Let’s gift with purpose and authenticity. Let’s make each gesture meaningful, and let the love we give be as noticeable as the gift itself.

Here’s some inspiration to add intention to your gift-giving:

Words are powerful

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Write something, anything. Whether it’s long or short, silly or profound, words can transform a gift into something more meaningful. Don’t you agree that receiving a gift with a hand written note feels far more special than just the gift itself? It might seem obvious, but without pausing to give it our attention and intention, we often let it slide.

Here are some inspiration words to get you started:

⭐ This is my way to say that I see you and value our connection.
⭐ No big words here, just a small gift to say I’m here, and I’m grateful.
⭐ With an open heart and gratitude, this is my gift to you.
⭐ Thank you for your presence. May we continue to be open, authentic, and real.
⭐ In this lifetime, I’m grateful we’re here to grow together, supporting each other.
⭐ This gift is a simple reminder that I see you .
⭐ I’m grateful for the moments we’ve shared.
⭐ Grateful for the connection we have.
⭐ To more moments of growth and realness between us.

(An empty postcard is included in the pack, inviting you to get creative.)

“Written words are temporary but once they are read, they last for eternity”

An intentional detail

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Add a small detail to your gift – something simple, but with a powerfull meaning. It might seem tiny, but the thought behind it can resonate deeply with the other person, filling them with warmth and love. The smallest things often carry the most powerful meaning.

Here are some examples of small details that can make a big impact:

⭐ Add a small crystal – A bit of a mystical touch of faith and mystery
⭐ Include a dried flower – A small yet powerful token of beauty and tenderness.
⭐ Add a candle – Create intimate moments, setting a sacred space for reflection, stillness, and peace.
⭐ Handmade soap – Cleansing, Self care, and self nurture, both physically and spiritually.
⭐ Include a photo of you together – A direct appreciation of the connection beyond words.

(Candle or any of the above are not included in the pack)

“The world and the things in it are neutral until we give them meaning. Then they become valuable.”

Other inspiration for intentional gifting

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As you may know, creativity is inexhaustible, and inspiration comes on demand. All we need to do is quiet our minds, tune into the purpose of what we want to do, and ask for inspiration—then release it with no expectations. It will come to us abundantly.

Here are some additional intentional gifts that can make a loving impact on the people we care for:

⭐ Shared Experience – Aa coffee date, a walk in nature, or an invitation to an event is an intention that says: ” I want to share time with you. Beautiful!

⭐ A Recipe of a Meal – Sharing time over food is a powerful way to connect, while also celebrating nourishment together.

⭐ Bring Back a Shared Memory– An object from a shared experience, like a ticket, a postcard, or something from a special day you spent together, will bring those real feelings back to awareness with all its nostalgic beauty.

⭐ A Plant or Seed– Symbolizes growth, new beginnings, and nurturing. As it grows, it will be a reminder of this moment of gifting.

⭐ A Gift of Rest – Offering someone the gift of rest, like a carefully chosen tea blend or a relaxing bath soap , encourages them to slow down and take care of themselves.

The intention matters the most

We receive gifts throughout our lives, but it’s the moments when someone gives us a piece of their heart that we truly remember. Intention is powerful because it opens both hearts, allowing them to meet in truth and vulnerability. It’s honest and raw, expressing something deeply personal, often hidden from the world.

When you share that intention with someone, it’s beautiful and impactful. Of course, it resonates deeply, it’s real, authentic, and intimate, whether in words of love or friendship.

We are here to share moments and our true hearts. Let’s allow our truth to be expressed to those around us. In doing so, we expand, grow, and invite others to do the same. We lead by example: May we open our heart, be mindful of where we place our attention, and gift with intention.